A commonly heard phrase, yes, but what is it that makes someone so angry or angry for a prolonged period of time? Why do some people explode over the most simple or smallest of things with seemingly little or even no explanation? Why is it that frustration and anger are always taken out on the people that we love the most?
Most commonly, anger becomes apparent when a goal is unable to be met.
If frustration and anger are directed in a positive way, they actually act as a motivational tool and aid positive life decisions to be made. Some types or degrees of anger are positive and necessary.
But when anger or frustration are seen to be irrational or over the top, they become negative and destructive when left untamed.
To navigate our way through anger and frustration too, the root cause must be found.
This can help control or tame the effects, make negative anger become positive anger, and will reduce if not eradicate the destruction which anger can have within our lives, relationships and workplace.
- Anger can be defined as being a temporary reaction to a particular event.
- It occurs when we feel threatened or hurt in an emotional, physical or psychological manner.
- Anger is a natural part of human emotion and an integral part of life.
- It is much harder for some people to control their anger than for others.
- Anger is usually directed outwardly.
- The effects are not just seen on the angry person but also upon those around them, living with them, working with them, or their loved ones.
- When anger is not controlled, it can be incredibly dangerous.
- There are two different types of anger: Passive and aggressive.
- The use of sarcasm;
- Negative body language;
- Ignoring other people;
- Avoidance of eye contact;
- Looking away from people;
- Poor posture;
This is where the anger of a person is communicated openly, freely and directly to another person. It can usually be seen as a fast-paced outburst of negative reactions, emotions, and words.
Aggressive anger can be seen in the following ways:
- Shouting directly at someone, something or an event;
- They keep shouting until they hit their target directly;
- Direct threats are used – they are wanting to cause harm;
- The misuse of physical strength can occur like pushing or shoving others;
- Objects in the way may be vandalised which is almost a release for the angry party and can be to show power;
- Aggressive Anger can lead to more alarming physical misconduct such as animal abuse and child abuse;
- This type of anger destroys relationships;
- Can lead to reckless driving;
- Substances are often abused in order to subdue themselves, induce calmness or numb their internal pain.
How can Anger Management help?
If anger is left without intervention, it can be hugely destructive to the angry person, their family and colleagues. This occurs when the person with anger management issues does not have a suitable outlet for their anger and lets it continue to build up.
When anger is at its worst, it completely impairs the judgments of a person, preventing them from being able to process information and stopping them from being able to control their own behaviour. This can be very dangerous when cognitive control is lost.
There are ways to suppress anger where anger can be converted, redirected or redistributed into something that is much more constructive.
Anger management is an effective solution for many people suffering from anger related problems because it helps them to:
- Control their anger;
- Process their anger;
- Regulate their anger;
- Recognise their anger;
- Addresses the root causes of their anger.
When anger is effectively managed, controlled and regulated, the person in question will recognise:
- Better relationships;
- More peace;
- Effective ways to help themselves to control their anger;
- How to avoid and deal with situations that make them very angry very quickly;
- Fewer problems occurring.
It is possible, through the use of anger management, for someone with anger management issues to be re-educated in their response to anger. This enables anger to be seen as an unpleasant but unwanted feeling, as opposed to something that has to be reacted to.
About Anger Management
Anger management has been researched a lot and has come to light more and more over the more recent years. However, there seems still to be some uncertainties as to how effective it can be and who it is more helpful for.
The ideas behind anger management seem straightforward from the outset,
but it is rather a difficult type of therapy to practice.
It can be very difficult to personally assess whether you require Anger Management or not. Some of the most in need people are completely unaware that they require help because they do not recognise how destructive their large amounts of unmanaged anger are.
These, generally, are the people who would benefit from Anger Management therapy the most.
How to recognise if you need Anger Management
- When there is very little provocation, do you get angry?
- Have you noticed that your friendships, relationships, and workplace relationships have taken a knock?
- Have certain elements of your life become much harder to deal with or have they changed a great deal?
If the answer is yes to any of the above questions, then you may consider Anger Management.
Hypnotherapy Clinic Newcastle can help you to learn how to manage, process and refocus your anger so that it is no longer harmful but can actually be very constructive in many different parts of your life.
Leave your anger behind – you deserve to be happy, peaceful and calm.
Contact Hypnotherapy Clinic Newcastle today to find out how your anger can be reduced and book in for your initial consultation with a highly trained professional today.
There is no need to live with negative, aggressive anger any longer. Recognise and address your issues today.